Is humility a dirty word? It seems we avoid it, and I think it is important to ask why.
My hunch is that humility and humiliation are closely connected in the minds of many people although they are very different.
Humility is gentle; humiliation is aggressive. Humility is often considered a social position of one down. while humiliation is often used to reinforce a superior position. Humility has a generous sharing quality; humiliation is an assault on our dignity.
Humility is more about service than domination. Unfortunately, service carries an association with servility and subservience. Hierarchical organizations which dominate our society reinforce the idea of superiors and inferiors and our winner-take-all competitive structure creates many situations of loss. It is no wonder that humiliation can become the typical experience of many people.
In an individualistic and aggressive world, humble work is often done by those who are providing others with a stepping stone to success. Rankism which is abuse based on rank often accompanies humble work. Most if not all of us have experienced the condescension and nasty treatment of someone who “outranks” us and it is not a pleasant experience.
Humility has great benefits. In particular it enables us to be open to possibility and therefore our own creativity. Wabi-sabi is an ancient and smart Japanese philosophy that values that which is humble. Humble is where life is since nothing is permanent. The edge of existence is where life happens.
Humility keeps us in that moment of constant change and becoming, and in doing so makes it possible for us to be a part of the larger journey of life. Humility keeps us in the ongoing creation of the universe.
Humility and wabi sabi are the antithesis of aggressive individualism. They are the opposite of control and status. There is no veneer or pose to protect in humility and wabi sabi. Their gifts to us are honesty and authenticity and real relationship and the opportunity to live in our creative selves.