Say Good-Bye To The Pain Body


Say Good-bye To The Pain Body - HSP Health

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Does pain seem to have a life of its own?

Do you ever wonder why that is?

What Is The Pain Body?

Everything that lives wants to continue living. The pain body is a part of us and like everything else wants to go on living. So says Eckhart Tolle in this article courtesy of Detoxify Now.

The pain body wants to survive, just like every other entity in existence, and it can only survive if it gets you to unconsciously identify with it. It can then rise up, take you over, “become you,” and live through you. It needs to get its “food” through you. It will feed on any experience that resonates with its own kind of energy, anything that creates further pain in whatever form: anger, destructiveness, hatred, grief, emotional drama, violence, and even illness.

The pain body is an energy field that is a part of your energy.  We all have all of the energies as part of us and access to them.  When we deny energies we get in trouble because we are cutting ourselves off from a part of us.  On the other hand, if we identify with our energies too much we also get into trouble, because we then protect the energy. So whatever we reject or protect creates problems for us.

How The Pain Body Gets Created

Sometimes the pain body comes into our lives even if we do not want it to because of our living conditions and situations.  Often we are introduced to the pain body as children through our families, religions, and communities through violence, discrimination and other life problems.

Pain needs to be processed and released; it should not be a constant in our lives.

Although we may experience pain, it becomes an more serious problem when we come to believe that pain is something we deserve, or the only real condition of life. Many people are taught that pain is what life is all about. To think otherwise can be considered an act of betrayal by your social group. Under these circumstances, pain is personal and inevitable. Pain then becomes part of our identity as individuals and as a group. It dominates our worldview and how we relate to the world.

Once it becomes our way of life it can be difficult extracting ourselves from the pain body. Because pain is inevitable in life, it can be easy to personalize it when the opposite might be more appropriate.

We are most vulnerable when we are young to indoctrination into mindsets and role and rule social systems that are harmful and painful.  We can be conditioned to become servants to struggle and various forms of violence rather than individuals who are co-creators of the world along with everyone else.  And so we become victims and victimizers. We join the pain body and turn our lives over to it.

What To Do About The Pain Body?

According to Eckhart Tolle:

The pain body, which is the dark shadow cast by the ego, is actually afraid of the light of your consciousness. It is afraid of being found out. Its survival depends on your unconscious identification with it, as well as on your unconscious fear of facing the the pain that lives in you. But if you don’t face it, if you don’t bring the light of your consciousness into the pain, you will be forced to relive it again and again. The pain body may seem to you like a dangerous monster that you cannot bear to look at, but I assure you that it is an insubstantial phantom that cannot prevail against the power of your presence.

So the pain body doesn’t want you to observe it directly and see it for what it is. The moment you observe, feel its energy field within you, and take your attention into it, the identification is broken. A higher dimension of consciousness has come in. I call it presence.

It is a huge act of courage to look the pain body in the eye and say no to it. You may not necessarily get support for doing so. So it may seem like a revolutionary act and it is.

But the light in you needs to face and let go of the pain body.

Once you do that the pain body cannot keep you as victim any longer. You have moved into your light which is also your health and your natural abundant creativity – a life affirming creativity based on love and joy.

This is your natural home. Once you are there you will feel lighter because you are no longer carrying your piece of the pain body.

The world is currently in the process of waking up from the pain body. I say join the party. Have a ceremony, a funeral for your pain body. Send it on its way. And celebrate a new life. You deserve it. We all deserve it.


Bullies And Introverts: How HSP’s Can Help Themselves

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Bullies and introverts do not mix.

How Bullies And Introverts Are Different

Bullies and bullying can be a troublesome challenge for highly sensitive people, who are most often introverts and there are many reasons why that is the case:

  1. HSP’s are usually not very aggressive and usually do not have an aggressive agenda. Bullies often have an aggressive agenda.  So the goals of bullies and introverts are usually in conflict and they often lack common ground in their interactions.
  2. Bullies are very territorial; HSP’s not so much – they are more holistic and complex.
  3. HSP’s are not necessarily the greatest fighters. Bullies may sense that and that may be one reason that bullies go after them. HSP’s have a more poetic nature which bullies may not be able to relate to.
  4. HSP’s are not the fastest people at most activities. Because of the volume of information that highly sensitive people process, they cannot be fast.  It takes time for HSP’s to arrive at opinions and conclusions. Conscientiousness is one of an HSP’s best qualities, but it means that they can be taken advantage of  by an aggressive person.
  5. Bullies often use pressure to obtain a result; introverts do not respond well to pressure.
  6. HSP’s tend to have a holistic and sometime fairly complex worldview which is the antithesis of a bully’s us vs. them thinking.
  7. HSP’s often dislike competition because they are less adversarial in their viewpoint; a bully may see life on more competitive terms.
  8. HSP’s tend to be introverted by nature and for self protection.  As a result, they may not be well known to their social peers, and may even seem standoffish. Therefore, their social support may be weak and it may make it harder to obtain assistance when dealing with a bully.

How HSP’s Can Handle Bullies

Handling bullies is a difficult challenge for highly sensitive people. Assuming you need to put up with a bully in your life, here are some things you can do to make your life easier in dealing with the bully:
  • don’t expect to change a bully. They are not likely to appreciate your sensitive nature.
  • let your sensitivity help you by enabling it to increase your perceived value in others. High perceived value will translate into greater respect and make you less of a target for bullies.
  • bullies often look for easy targets. So make it hard for them to see you as a target. You may not be friends but you don’y necessarily have to be enemies.
  • if a bully is hard for you to handle  directly, try interacting with associates and developing your relationships among people who interact with the bully. A bully will not attack someone if in doing so they lose face.
  • make your perceived value as public as possible. The less visible and known your value is the easier it is for a bully to take advantage of you.
It is extremely important for highly sensitive people to attempt to create a social presence and counteract the isolation that can make them vulnerable.  Cultivating a social role that creates the perception of value among peers can be great insurance.  Bullies and introverts may not make great natural friends, so social self protection can be a good investment.

Why Focusing Is An Important Skill For Highly Sensitive People

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I used to be uncomfortable with the idea of focusing. It seemed so tight and controlled, so forced and fragile at the same time.

I thought that focus meant blocking out, and I did not want to block out.

The Fear Of Focus

Why was I afraid of focus?

Focusing seemed short-sighted when I wanted to be holistic. How can you be whole and fully awake when you are blocking out something or someone?

If being intentional is the Holy Grail of consciousness did focus take you away from it? Focus seemed like putting on blinders which meant giving up your integrity and I did not like that.

The Attraction Of Focus

Focus also seemed to offer hope.

I wanted access to my full creativity so I knew that I had to be able to fully immerse myself in what I was doing.

I also knew from my learning about Ayurveda that intelligence exists in all aspects of ourselves not just in our minds so I thought that focus could help me listen to all aspects of myself and the world as well..

Eugene Gendlin wrote a famous book about focus aptly named Focus. Eugene Gendlin who operates the Focusing Institute decribes focus on his website:

“Focusing is a mode of inward bodily attention that most people don’t know about yet. It is more than being in touch with your feelings and different from body work. Focusing occurs exactly at the interface of body-mind. It consists of specific steps for getting a body sense of how you are in a particular life situation. The body sense is unclear and vague at first, but if you pay attention it will open up into words or images and you experience a felt shift in your body. In the process of Focusing, one experiences a physical change in the way that the issue is being lived in the body. We learn to live in a deeper place than just thoughts or feelings. The whole issue looks different and new solutions arise.”

The Benefits Of Focusing

Focusing is a different way of engaging with life that allows us our full intelligence.  It is more that a gut instinct, it is a felt sense that brings us complete information or a centered wholeness if we will allow it.  More than 80 studies have been conducted to validate the effectiveness of focusing.

When in a state of focus, we operate from a very relaxed place. Highly sensitive people who suffer from stress and overwhelm can benefit from learning focusing. Meditation facilitates detachment from the ego state which opens us to the potential of the mind body connection and focusing. Focusing facilitates access to our deeper knowing.

For HSP’s who often have difficulty with stress, ADD, and depression, the focusing technique can help them access the best in themselves.  Combined with other healing techniques, focusing offers HSP’s the opportunity for greater confidence and ease in their daily lives.

Brahmi: Miracle Herb For Nerves

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HSP’s have such hyperactive nervous systems.

It may seem impossible sometimes to find a way to live with it. As much as our sensitivity benefits us, it can also be hard to live with.

Fortunately, nature offers us some solutions.

Brahmi is a great gift from nature to heal the nerves of HSP’s.

Benefits Of Brahmi

Ayurveda offers so many incredible herbs that provide highly sophisticated systemic benefits. Brahmi, also called Bacopa Monnieri, is one.

Brahmi is one of the natural herbs known as adaptogens.  An adaptogen is a product that…increase(s) resistance to stresstraumaanxiety and fatigue.”

According to Clarocet‘s reference library, brahmi benefits are evident in four areas:

  • improved capacity for attention and focus,
  • improved ability to withstand emotional stress
  • reduction in nervousness and anxiety
  • improved immune system function.

Research On Brahmi

Science is increasingly investigating the benefits of natural medicines. The Holistic Herbalist website offer information on the clinical trials and results for the herb Bacopa Monnieri. They show that Bacopa does in fact live up to its reputation.  This is a synopsis of the many studies about Bacopa:

  1. a research study in Australia showed that Bacopa improved mental retention of information
  2. In another similar study showed that bacopa monnieri decreases the rate of forgetting of newly acquired information, verbal learning rate and memory consolidation
  3. In yet another 3 to 12 week study,  B. monnieri showed significant improvement in the  learning rate and memory consolidation and an  improvement in higher order cognitive functions that depend on memory, learning and environmental factors
  4. Properties of bacopa play a key role in enhancing nerve impulse transmission. They support the repair of damaged neurons by enhancing kinase activity, neuronal synthesis, restoration and regeneration of synaptic activity resulting in nerve impulse transmission. These effects make it a wonderful nerve tonic or nerve nourishing agent as against the neuroleptic drugs that modulate the behavior.
  5. Bacopa or Brahmi also improved learning skills, had a positive impact on reducing the progression of Alzheimers’s Disease, a known HSP disease and is known to provide assistance with epilepsy.
  6. In a study on rats, Bacopa was shown to stockpile useful enzymes in the brain to help deal with stressful situations thereby reducing the the impacts of the stress.
  7. Bacopa or Brahmi can be useful in reducing the symptoms of depression.
Brahmi or Bacopa is a very effective herbal treatment for the nervous system and symptoms of nervous system disorders.  For highly sensitive people with so many nervous system problems this herb should be a mainstay of the daily health regimen.

The Problems You Have To Have…

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If you are having the problems you don’t have to have, you are not having the problems that you have to have.

It’s a saying I have to remind myself that cluttering up my life with problems that are unnecessary is a great way to not get to the “problems” of growing and creating that I really need.

Having the problems I do not have to have is a great way to avoid putting myself out there and it does not feel very good.

The Problems Of HSP’s And Their Hidden Advantage

Highly sensitive people have a particular set of issues which show up in physical, emotional, mental and spiritual challenges that require mindful attention. HSP’s experience a higher level of intensity which requires different life strategies. It can be difficult to handle all the intensity but learning to do so is very rewarding.

  • Every aspect of life for highly sensitive people demands more of them and as a result, HSP’s bring more attention to most things they do. That can become an asset.
  • Because of the HSP tendency to sensory overstimulation, they need to manage their lives in such a way that they minimize stress overload. All aspects of life: work, social, family, and management of daily life require careful consideration. This problem can lead to greater focus.
  • Highly sensitive people need to monitor the build up of stresses in their lives. We live in a culture where people are expected to put up with significant amounts of stress, which is often perceived as normal. For HSP’s, “normal” stress is a non starter. Unfortunately, HSP’s may be treated with disrespect and be perceived as weak because of their need to minimize stress in their lives. This is problem can lead to better time management and better health.
  • Many HSP’s decided to develop simple ways of living in order to keep unnecessary complexity out of their lives including keeping their diets simple. Simple living can be life saving and freeing for HSP’s. HSP’s as a result can develop an eagle eye for what is necessary and what isn’t.
  • Herbal remedies and health practices like meditation can help to minimize the chance of disease and illness which plague many highly sensitive people. Improved health is a considerable advantage in all aspects of life.

Highly sensitive people are often creative and have the potential to achieve great things. Many are geniuses with special talents. By getting a handle on their daily lives, physical problems and stress issues, they have a chance to have the wonderful “problem” of developing their considerable gifts.

The Surprising Cause Of Addiction

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Have you ever wondered what causes addiction?

Does it seem sometimes that all around us is one form of addiction or another? Entertainment, shopping, work, the internet, sex, food, drugs, alcohol?

Do you ever wonder if that is all there is?

The Cause Of Addiction

Stress and addiction are actually cause and effect according to Yogi Amrit Desai, founder of Kripalu Yoga. His thinking is explained in  Natural AwakeningsHealing the Root Cause of Addiction with Ayurveda A Natural Cure for Unhealthy Dependence by Linda Sechrist

According to Yogi Desai in this article, “Addictions are antidotes that provide a temporary escape from the stress- producing, conflict-creating reactions you have about what you are doing, where you are going and who you are with. Addiction, which is only an effect, occurs when you continue to use inappropriate external resources to reduce stress and restore a sense of balance, while failing to resolve the cause of the stress hidden in the unconscious.”

The first question this raises is:

  • why does anyone need an antidote to a reaction?
  • are some reactions OK and others not?

Have you ever noticed when your feelings and reactions are “corrected” by other people and how that feels?  and what is your reaction to that experience?

Problems with reactions and the need to escape them come from a conflict we are unable to resolve. Usually the seeds of addiction are created when we are children.  As children we are stuck not only physically but also emotionally as well. We have to survive in the environment into which we are born. It is that natural need to survive that can get us in trouble because we sometimes have to live with compromises to our worth and dignity that we do not want or deserve.

Unfortunately the seeds of addiction can happen innocently. If, as a child, someone were to step on your foot, and you were told not to cry, that the hurt is really not so bad, you would likely feel awful from the hurt foot, awful that your hurt was not acknowledged, bad for crying, and confused by the reaction to what seems obvious to you: you need help and healing.  The seeds of addiction have just been planted, when the child has to reject his or her natural feelings to be accepted by parents and family.

The seeds of addiction can be magnified in a situation of extreme abuse where the child experiences both abuse and denial of the abuse. Often the child must act with affection and gratitude to their abuser, which causes their feelings of conflict intensify. Add the natural pain of the child and the thwarting of the natural inclination to love that an abuse situation creates, and you have a serious emotional mess!

This mess if it is allowed to exist over a long period of time results in disabling and  creates  damaging conflicting emotions that can result in extreme and maybe permanent damage to that individual’s integrity and ability to self regulate.

People who suffer from addictions deserve compassion.  Highly sensitive people are particularly vulnerable in abusive situations because they take in all energies like a sponge and they heal slowly.  It is difficult to be stoic and be a highly sensitive person.

There are any number of solutions and paths to healing the conditions and causes of addiction.  They include therapy that validates feeling, and alternative health practices like meditation, eft and reiki that help release frozen painful energy in the body.

Healing from addictions and child abuse can be a lengthy process, because you have to reverse the long process of devaluation that created the problem in the first place. HSP’s often experience devaluation because of their sensitivity so abuse can add an additional experience of devaluation making healing even more challenging.

One of the bravest actions a highly sensitive person can take is to decide to be an advocate for themselves and get the help they need so that they can have some quality of life.