The Secret Benefit of Emotional Healing

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Are you stuck in your emotional healing?

Do you keep falling down?

Do you ever wonder what there is for you when your healing is complete?

Does Emotional Healing Ever End?

Emotional healing can seem like a never ending process for a reason. Emotional healing focuses on a problem:

  • you are the problem
  • your parents are the problem
  • society is the problem
  • other treat you like the problem
  • life is a never ending problem

And so you drown in problems, some of your own making, many not of your making.

What doesn’t seem to get questioned is the view of life as just a series of problems. Is that all that is – really?

No wonder everyone is so depressed. What a depressing view of life!

Changing How We Frame Our Experience

The magic in life begins when you stop treating life as a problem or series of problems.

Have you ever noticed how whenever you seem to have one problem solved, another pops up?

Have you ever noticed how often you frame your experience in terms of problems?

Could you be attracting problems because that is how you frame your experience?

Suppose we were to change how we frame our experience? Can we of life as being more than a series of problems?

Beyond Problems

Life isn’t just about our problems.

If we take a long view of human history, we will notice that yes, we have a problems, but look at how far we have come! Look at all that we have created that enables us to survive and thrive.

So is it the problems that we are all about or perhaps what we have created that we are all about.

The Easiest Path To Emotional Healing

The easiest way to heal emotionally is to drop our problems especially as the purpose of our lives.

Sure there are problems and always will be, but we need to keep them in perspective in order to heal.

We also need to move into our natural creativity to move beyond them. There is a big difference between drowning in our problems and seeing our problems as part of what we are trying to create in the world. As long as we equate life with problems, we cannot find the joy that is possible in our lives as we participate in the ongoing evolution of the human race.

That is the real story. When you participate in it, you will heal many of your emotional problems.

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Meanness And The Power Of Stories

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Do you ever wonder why there is so much meanness in the world?

Do you ever feel that it makes no sense, that it is a mistake?

If you do, you are right.

The Power Of Stories

Meanness is as old as the human race and it exists in other species as well. However, the human race has carried its meanness to an extreme.

To understand the evolution of meanness it helps to put yourself in the shoes of our early ancestors. Imagine what life was like several thousand years ago. You live in a small tribe of people probably in Africa, Australia or South America. You live in mud huts and have little to protect you from harsh weather conditions, and the aggression of other tribes.

But that is only the half of it. People do not know why anything happens. They do not know enough about cause and effect. They often felt at the mercy of nature and forces beyond their control.

So what did they do?

They did what people do – even today. They started creating stories about what was happening in order to create a rationale a way of handling the events that occurred around them and to them. They dealt with uncertainty and tragedy by creating explanations:

  • they created gods and goddesses and also sorts of myths to explain human behavior
  • they became very attuned to nature and created many supernatural explanations for the behavior of nature.
  • they were very attuned to the energy of the universe

A perfect example is Dreamtime and dreaming created by the Australian aborigines. Dreamtime is the aboriginal creation story and the starting point and basis of aboriginal culture. Dreaming is used to explain everything from how a bird got its colors to how humans are created. Aborigines used Dreamtime to explain spiritual concepts like eternity and earth concepts like weather events.

The point of this is not to describe aborigines as mean people far from it. It’s to help understand something about stories.

How Meanness Got The Upper Hand

It isn’t really meanness that got the upper hand. Stories did.

To this day we attach to stories about ourselves and others, our country and other countries for better or worse.

Stories are powerful.

At one time, stories were all that we had to communicate cultural identity and life. They were our first form of education and are a wonderful way to talk about the mysteries of life. Stories bring our experience to life and help us connect with the web of life that constitutes our world. Certainly the aborigines used their stories that way.

The Dark Side Of Stories

However, stories can have a dark side. Because of the way we engage with stories they can take on a life of their own.

Look at what happens when a story is created and used to bully someone. Some people commit suicide because the story being told about them becomes entrenched and they cannot do anything to correct it. Stories used in such a malicious way can destroy lives.

Stories are often wrong although that may be hard for us to understand when we are in the middle of one. One of the reasons stories are so powerful is because they engage with our imaginations. Our imagination can be a very open place, susceptible to stories that play on our fears. Stories that play on our fears or negative experiences, our wounded self, can easily be malicious and escape the serious scrutiny that they deserve.

Stories form our connection with others and our identities. What happens when we have a story that is totally different from everyone else in our social group? It may be interesting but it will also feel uncomfortable. Then again how many of us allow our stories to be the cultural story we are told when we are young? How much of the differences between men and women are about the long cultural story of each sex and not about the actual people in a relationship?

Using Stories Wisely

It is important to be very mindful about the stories we tell as well as the stories we believe. It will help us to support stories for their positive social and cultural contribution and help us avoid promoting malicious stories that feed the meanness between people.

Relieve Chronic Pain with Ayurveda

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Do you suffer from chronic pain?

Does it seem as if the amount of pain you are experiencing is growing over time rather than diminishing?

Do you have a hard time functioning because of chronic pain?

Is it hard to relieve your chronic pain with medication?

What Causes Chronic Pain?

There are many causes of pain. Certainly trauma can result in a permanent condition with daily and chronic pain. However, not all pain comes from trauma like accidents or injuries of some sort.

Much chronic pain comes from imbalances in the body that accumulate over time to the point that they interfere with the normal functioning of the body.

It may seem like a stretch, chronic pain most often comes from a variety of causes related to our living situation. According to Ayurveda, the following are the general types of imbalances at the source of most chronic conditions, including chronic pain:

  • Toxins accumulating in tissues and blocking circulation
  • Poor nutrition
  • Poor digestion
  • Imbalance of the nervous system
  • Accumulation of physical and mental stress
  • Lowering of natural resistance and immunity

The modern medical approach that matches drugs to symptoms does not completely address many of these factors. As a result, modern medicine often cannot fully remove the disorder and the condition becomes chronic. Chronic means that the condition persists over time even with the best modern medical treatment, indicating that some new approach is needed in our health care system.

Visualizing The Causes Of Chronic Pain

One way to begin to understand chronic pain is to visualize how your body works.

Our bodies are very complex, high functioning organisms. Each part of your body has a function to perform and cannot do so if interfered with.

Here are just four ways in which our bodies can be interfered with that will cause toxic buildup and eventually chronic pain:

  1. our digestion is not working properly. One particularly damaging cause of illness and chronic pain comes from our digestion system:
    1.  we are eating at the wrong time
    2. we eat too frequently so that our digestive system cannot digest all of the food we ate
    3. we eat the wrong foods we cannot easily digest which means food will not be processed. Processed foods and fast foods are particularly harmful. They will cause toxic accumulation resulting in disease and chronic pain
    4. eating when we are upset
    5. eating while watching TV, or engaging in any other activity will also create problems because out brains are occupied with the activity and not eating and so the meal does not register in the brain resulting in overeating and obesity.
  2. we accumulate toxins. So if you start to accumulate toxins in your cells, the cells cannot function well. Then a domino effect occurs that interferes with the functioning of other cells. When the process has gone on for long enough, impairment, pain and disease are the result.
  3. we have too much stress in our lives. Stress causes a rise in your blood sugar levels and if that situation is chronic, you body will think it is in a state of emergency for a long time, depleting all of your energy and food stores so that you become tired, depleted and your immune system becomes compromised. This situation also leads to metabolic disorder and eventually diabetes. Reducing stress helps prevent an chronic illness and the pain that goes with it.
  4. we have a lot of chaos and anxiety. The vata biosystem or dosha of the body governs our mind, brain and movement in the body. When our body is clogged in any way whether from toxins or food we are stopping the natural flow of nutrients to our cells and the elimination of wastes. Constipation is a perfect example of a vata imbalance that can result in chronic pain and disease. Perhaps you have had the experience of having a headache or joint pains that were released when the constipation ended.

What Can You Do To Relieve Chronic Pain?

When you become aware that stress, chaos, processed food, poor digestion and toxins can accumulate and cause disease as well as chronic pain, you can start to do something about it.

Here are some simple solutions:

  • eat a beet every day. Beets cleans the liver, the bile which often become thick and sluggish and improved the digestion. According to Dr. John Douillard of Lifespa, beets are a great cleanser for the body. Beets also help the lymph system located around your stomach which helps you immune system.
  • eat three meals a day in an agreeable environment to let your body fully digest each meal so that you do not accumulate undigested food in your body.
  • get 8 hours of sleep at night. You will have an easier time making changes if you are getting adequate rest.
  • drink water. Warm water consumed every 15-20 minuted throughout the day will help you remove toxins from the body.
  • find a good stress reduction practice for yourself. Many people like meditation.
  • add some  supplements:

There is so much you can do by changing diet and your daily schedule.

Relieving the burden on the body of accumulated toxins, will start a process of natural pain relief and is worth undertaking because no one deserves to live in pain.

Note: this article is for information only and not meant to replace the advise of a physician.

Why You Can Afford To Lose Control

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Does losing control scare you? Do you see not having control as a weakness? Do you receive criticism and negative feedback when you make a mistake and are “out-of-control?

What Is Control?

Given how much attention and pain are associated with control, what is it exactly? According to The Free Dictionary, control is the ability to direct, regulate and restrain. It is essentially the ability to demand of others. You would think that it would not be a big deal since most people recognize that we all need to cooperate and work together. But it is and is a long standing problem between people. So where did all of this control come from? We can point to several culprits all from our ancient past:

  • our fear of the unpredictability of nature. Even today, with all of the resources we have to manage our lives and secure our physical well-being, we are still vulnerable to natural forces and often in fear of them.
  • the violence of our past. Given the difficulty of surviving for our early ancestors, violence was frequently used to secure basic necessities. We acquired a bad reputation with each other.
  • in a world of scarce resources educating a few was more practical than educating everyone, so knowledge was concentrated in a few hands, creating perceptions of superiority and entitlement.
  • people get used to a system, their perks and entitlements or the lack of them, start protecting their positions and limiting change to the detriment of everyone.

So we have the problem developed over time that is not going away any time soon.

The Downside Of Control

Control comes with such a downside, it is surprising that we humans have not put the subject on the table more openly. So what are some of the downsides of control?

  1. it makes assumptions about people that then result in expectations which unfortunately seem to have a life of their own – like they are etched in stone. So expectations start to control behavior and we have lost sight of the reality of real people who are all alike in some ways and different in others.
  2. expectations eliminate the need for give and take which means that we are hurt each other by refusing to engage in natural give and take. Bullying becomes the norm in relationships rather than mutual respect.
  3. control is results oriented, and demands a fixed, specific and usually known outcome. It does not necessarily seek the best possible outcome in the present. We significantly shortchange ourselves when we do this.
  4. control seekers value security which they would have more of by recognizing that life and people are ever changing.
  5. control seekers in my experience rarely take in to account how much we do not know. Expectations are funny that way. They create a false kind of knowing based on approval and the status quo and overlook other types of knowing. The consequences can be short-sighted or counterproductive mistakes to terrible disasters. Many civilizations, like the Mayan and others, collapsed by holding on to the status quo when change and adaptation was required.

So What Can We Do About Control?

The easiest way I know of to make peace with this issue in my experience is to recognize that in each moment both the known and the unknown exist and coexist. And we need to respect both. Our past history with all its warts got us this far at great expense to many. I marvel at the people who got into rickety boats to find new lands and the incredible work that went into creating some of our heritage sites like the pyramids and Taj Mahal. So how to approach control:

  • respect that past as we seek to move forward and improve quality of life on the planet.
  • avoid all or nothing battles. Usually the past has something to offer even as we change it. Throwing out the baby with the bathwater is a reckless as refusing any change.
  • think of change as a rebalancing rather than a rejection. When you approach problems and people in this way, you are treating the past and people as a part of the solution which honors the good in them.
  • life conditions are more important than expectations. Sometimes we can enjoy our comforts and other times we need to relinquish them.
  • respect the good in other people. Some of our failures are failures of imagination rather than desire.
  • be kind always. We all suffer from fears and limitations.
  • use the baby step method to create change, to let positive steps build on each other.
  • forgive as much as you can.

Control And Trust

Control issues are often about a lack of trust. Distrust can become institutionalized and entrenched in our minds. When we do our part on control issues, we are helping to restore trust in a world battered by conflict and fear. Every step you take to reduce control issues is an act of courage but also an act of generosity. And something to be proud of.

Gymnema: Ayurvedic Herb For Diabetes and Blood Sugar Control

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Are you under a lot of stress?

Is the stress you experience chronic?

Are you also a highly sensitive person?

Why HSP’s Can Suffer From Diabetes

Diabetes is a risk for people who suffer from chronic stress because chronic stress keeps the body’s digestive system out of balance. Stress puts the body into a state of emergency that can raise blood sugar levels.  Over  a long period of time, elevated blood sugar can caused permanent damage to the body.

Highly sensitive people are stress magnets. Their sensitivity, deep processing and empathetic nature make it hard for them not to be stressed out. This means that their entire lives, they can be at risk for getting diabetes.

How Ayurveda Can Help Highly Sensitive People Control Blood Sugar

It is an excellent idea for HSP’s to work at controlling their blood sugar. One natural way to control blood sugar is the herb gymnema silvestre.  The Ayurveda Encyclopedia names gymnema the main Ayurvedic herb for treating diabetes.

Gymnema works directly on the pancreas to remove sugar, stimulate pancreatic function, improve circulation and help urine output.

Gymnema also reduces excess kapha (which is the body system in Ayurveda in charge of body structure.  It is often associated with obesity.) and vata (the body system responsible for the nervous system). When the Vata nervous system is upset by stress or other factors an individual will eat erratically and often the wrong food. Poor eating habits can help diabetes to develop.

Benefits Of Gymnema

Gymnema has many benefits that can help people suffering from diabetes and the symptoms of excellive stress:

  1. gymnema heals skin disorders and infections which are a known complication of diabetes
  2. it ignites digestion and treats all metabolic disorders including diabetes which means it can help pre diabetics
  3. it may be regenerative of pancreatic beta cells which means that it may offer diabetics the potential to restore pancreatic insulin production according to Ayurvedic Diet Solutions.
  4. it reduces sugar taste in the mouth and therefore reduces sugar cravings which are very harmful to diabetes and people suffering from stress related obesity
  5. it may block the assimilation of sugar.  According to WiseGeek, “the unique shape of gymnemic acid molecules are similar to that of glucose, allowing it to fill cell receptors in the lining the intestines, thereby preventing uptake of sugar molecules.”

Gymnema – A Time Honored Herbal remedy

Gymnema silvestre has a long history of helping diabetic patients in India.  It is now making its way to the West as an herbal solution for treating diabetes, metabolic disorder and is also used as a staple in some detoxification programs.  Gymnema is available in a pill form making it easier to use than insulin.

In some cases gymnema may alleviate the need for insulin supplementation. It is a promising treatment for diabetics that is worth looking into because it is relatively inexpensive, and easy to use. Although not recommended for pregnant and lactating women, this herb has proven to be safe over a long period of time.

Research On Gymnema Benefits For Diabetes

Gymnema has been used by Ayurveda for centuries to help manage blood sugar and manage diabetes.  Western medicine has become interested in this herb and has begun investigating its benefits.  Here are links to some of the studies that bear out that gymnema does in fact lower blood sugar and improve pancreatic function:

  1. A novel Gymnema sylvestre extract stimulates insulin secretion from human islets in vivo and in vitro.
  2. In vitro callus and in vivo leaf extract of Gymnema sylvestre stimulate β-cells regeneration and anti-diabetic activity in Wistar rats.
  3. A novel dihydroxy gymnemic triacetate isolated from Gymnema sylvestre possessing normoglycemic and hypolipidemic activity on STZ-induced diabetic rats.
  4. Gymnema sylvestre for diabetes mellitus: a systematic review.
  5. An overview on the advances of Gymnema sylvestre: chemistry, pharmacology and patents.

When Conformity And Stewardship Collide

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Do you ever feel that inner conflicts can’t be resolved?

Does your desire to belong and be accepted conflict with other desires?

Does your higher self ever feel left out?

Conflicts About Conformity

Conformity and stewardship: sometimes they work in harmony and other times they collide.

All societies create structures and norms that define daily life and the predominant mission of the society. Generally the predominant mission which is another way of saying values, is driven by some type of necessity.

Our earliest ancestors were hunter gatherers. When humans discovered how to grow crops, our ancestors shifted to a more agricultural way of life. It was certainly less life threatening than wrestling with dangerous animals to get food. However, food needed to be stored and then protected from other humans who preferred to steal rather than farm.

So a new way of life came into being that supported that agricultural economic system. This is goodness. Who wants to be wrestling with dinosaurs or other predators every day? However there is a down side.

How Structure Helps And Hurts Us

We create structures to support us, which is an example of stewardship, and then create the mindset and practices that support the structure, which is conformity.

Spiral Dynamics, the book by Chris Cowan and Don Beck, calls the situation that gives rise to a particular economic and social system as “life conditions.” This is the reality or real problems that drive the creation of a societal structure.

Once a particular structure with all of its institutions, rituals, mores and values is in place it become the “reality” for the people of that society. After some generations have passed, no one will remember the prior social structure. Daily life, purpose and problem solving all take place within the framework of the existing cultural dynamics, which will seem like life itself.

Cultures Have Life Cycles

There is a problem, though. Many people do not realize that like each one of us, a societal structure has a lifecycle. It comes into being to solve a problem, succeeds and then creates the conditions for a need for change which ushers in a new system with new values and purpose.

A perfect example is the current systemic change going on in the world. The existing system came into being to create a better life for human being though innovation and human initiative. It was created when people were few and resources were plentiful and has succeeded admirably in its mission. Now its success has sown the seeds of change because of our dwindling natural resources.

When To Conform And When Not To

Most individuals when a society is in a advanced state like ours, try to solve the problems they are facing by using the tools of the existing system. So if the existing system used growth to solve problems, growth is the assumed solution, when in fact a new solution, new structure and new values are required. This is where conformity and stewardship collide.

When a system is in its prime, the society functions well, and conformity to the system makes sense and feels coherent. When it has passed its prime that is no longer the case. Stewardship at different stages of the system lifecycle has different requirements; sometimes conformity is good stewardship and sometimes not.

Conformity And HSP’s

HSP’s are very sensitive to the conflicts around them at any stage of the life cycle of a society. They will pick up a sense of where the society is in its development, and notice when the practices of a particular cultural structure have become more destructive than constructive.

Highly sensitive people can be the canaries in the coal mine. They are in touch with the present, but usually ahead of the prevailing mindset. It can make them appear to be ahead of their time when they are really very in touch with the present.

HSP’s can be very useful to a society that wants to be smart about managing its change. We humans have not managed change well in the past. Valuing our sensitive geniuses could make it much easier to know when to conform or not, when to change, and when we are being good stewards. HSP’s are worth embracing for this reason.

For More Information: Dr. Clare Graves Site

Benefits Of Letting Go

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Haven’t we all met the person who never gets over it?  The person with a grudge for everyone else to pay their whole life?  The person who is always pulling teeth to get their way?

For thousands of years human beings have been invested in a vengeful and controlling way of life, with seriously painful ways of treating each other.  When will it stop? When do we change it? Sounds simple, but it is easier said than done.

Letting Go Is A Process

Letting go isn’t an event; it’s a process.

It is not really a mental switch that you pull or can turn off.  Some people think letting go is a form of abdication.  It isn’t.  It is more a way of giving up control so that you can stop forcing the world to be the way you want it to be. The less you strong arm the world into “your way” the more you are open to all the word has to offer.

Letting Go Feels Better

Letting go means you are there for the world. Letting go is generous.

It comes from a kinder place, a place of deeper regard for yourself and others. It comes from a place that is grounded in an appreciation for the challenges of life for all of us.

Life always was and always will be short and imperfect.  That is true for me, you and the other 7 billion people on the planet. It is true for all life forms. We are the only life form that seems to stomp around the planet trying to make someone pay for the arrangement. Unfortunately, the person or persons that we are trying to get to pay have no more control over the arrangement that you or I.

Letting Go Means Making The Best Of It

So how can someone else offer us security when they don’t have it or can’t get it either? How can someone offer us immortality when they don’t have it, won’t have it and get get it? Why do we persist in thinking that the arrangement is different for us than someone else?  Or why do we insist that it should be?

We all want a joyful and secure life, and that is fine, but we cannot get there at someone else’s expense.  And that is the crux of the problem. We can only get joy and security by making the best of it, but being a part of the ongoing creation of life. We can’t get there by pulling teeth from everyone around us to extract a comfortable arrangement that suits only us. Once we include the well being of the rest of the world in our agenda, there is no longer any need to pull teeth.

Embrace Your Prana!

 

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Have you ever stood outside and allowed yourself to just be in the air?

Do you know what I mean? Standing in the flowing expansiveness and enjoying it?

That’s prana.

What Is Prana?

What is prana? Prana also called chi is something that we feel all around us.  It is elusive, flowing, and it is our home. Prana is what we take in when we breathe. It is the universal life force.

Prana is not oxygen and it is not air.  It exists in oxygen and air but it is not the same thing.  It is the natural intelligence that activates the oxygen, that moves with the air.

The Natural Intelligence Of Prana

Prana, the life force, activates the natural intelligence in all things.  Every living thing has natural intelligence including each human being.

The intelligence of prana exists whether we recognize it or not.  Prana just is, and is always there for us. It is inescapable. It is active even if we decide to ignore it.  If  we ignore it we harm ourselves and others. When we embrace prana, we allow it to define our lives, because when we live to support our natural intelligence, we are creating our  health and well-being.  When we live in a way that does not support our natural intelligence we are essentially hastening our death.

Prana is subtle.  It moves through our bodies all of the time unless it is blocked.  There are any number of reasons for blockages, from poor quality food  to difficult emotions, poor mental states and  pollution.  The opportunity for prana disturbance and imbalances in the body are substantial.

How To Support Our Prana

Prana wants to flow freely. Therefore, the  optimal way for prana to move through the body is to clear the body of all the blockages in all parts of the physical system.

In order to clear all blockages we need to detox in every way.  One way is through energy medicine which clears the energy centers in the body called meridians and chakras from Eastern medicine.  Ayurveda has the term nadis which is similar to meridians. Meridians, nadis and chakras are all energy points in the body that need to be clear for us to be healthy.

Under the Ayurvedic system, all practices are designed to maximize the movement of prana in the body to ensure excellent health and optimum well-being.  Because all things have natural intelligence in them, the quality of that intelligence is extremely important. Food can have excellent natural intelligence if it is organic or poor prana if it is processed fast food or junk food. Anything that is polluted in any way detracts from our own life force by harming our own prana, making it difficult to live in our bodies.

You could say that one of our jobs in life is to make a home for prana.  To make our natural intelligence welcome we need organic food, pure water, pure air, good health habits, supportive exercise like yoga, healthy constructive relationships and positive purpose. The more we are able to incorporate prana supporting practices into our lives, the more natural health and bliss are ours.

For More Information:

What is Prana? Sri Aurobindo Center of Los Angeles

Cultivating Prana by Dr. Svoboda