Mistakes are a no-no, even a taboo.
That is unfortunate because they are very important and necessary.
Without mistakes you cannot be in touch with and claim your own power.
Embracing mistakes is a important if you want to come into your own as an HSP.
The Hidden Benefit Of Mistakes
According to Robert Fritz, author of the Path of Least Resistance and Creating, the creative process can be divided into three large phases:
- the idea or germination
- the development of the idea from concept to completion
- releasing the result
Although we can make mistakes at any time and step of the process, mistakes are most valuable when we are in the development phase.
Mistakes are an important part of the trial and error process that lets us engage with an idea and reality.
They tell us when something is not working so that we can consider what to change.
It is through mistakes not only that we learn, but also that we develop mastery over a subject.
Mistakes are our path to our power and effectiveness in the world.
How Mistakes Can Seem Like A Bad Idea
Mistakes can seem like a bad idea, particularly to highly sensitive people.
We do not like the negative feedback and we feel terrible when we have done harm to others.
Our natural gifts can make it difficult for us to want to take any chances. Since we are often misperceived and misunderstood and our insights dismissed, it can seem as if we are taking big risks whenever we move forward.
The Baggage Of Mistakes
There are many misconceptions about mistakes that can create problems for us:
- mistakes are a matter of life and death. For early humans, mistakes may indeed have been a matter of life and death. However, those days are long gone and we can lighten up about mistakes. Most mistakes may create some inconvenience and even some loss but are rarely life threatening.
- mistakes are a sign of stupidity. Mistakes have been equated with lower intelligence as far back as I can remember. However, mistakes are inevitable when we are venturing to create something new, or learn a new skill.
- mistakes are a sign of weakness. Making mistakes can actually be a sign of strength since it takes courage to be willing to learn something new.
- mistakes are a sign of bad character. What an old saw this is! Character assassination is a favorite method of attacking people who take risks. Mistakes are not a sign of bad character. They are a sign of a learning process under way.
- mistakes are a sign we do not care. Making mistakes, if we are trying to learn can be a sign of great caring. Sticking your neck out to learn takes courage which is usually a sign of caring.
Embracing Intelligent Risk Taking
The easiest way to move forward in life, embrace your personal growth and learn is to embrace intelligent risk taking.
Not all risk taking is equal. You can make unnecessary mistakes by taking on to much at once, always flying by the seat of your pants, flying blind without conducting any research and generally making a mess.
Or you can take a wiser approach.
A Process For Intelligent Risk Taking
In order to take intelligent risks, you have to have in your mind a process that can make risk taking an important and valuable part of what you are doing. You need to create a process that you have confidence in.
Here is one that is a start:
- identify what you want to do.
- break it down into steps. This prevents you from getting in over your head and makes it easier to identify where you want to make corrections and why.
- research what is needed to do what you want to do. Understanding the skills, tools and other requirements will make it easier for you to take an intelligent risk.
- obtain whatever resources you need. D not skimp on time, materials, education or any other resource you need.
- pause to evaluate your progress frequently. It will help you avoid the most egregious and costly errors.
- once you are comfortable with your preparation, engage wholeheartedly in accomplishing what you want.
Often the difference between effective and ineffective risk taking is a matter of preparation.
Benefiting From Taking Risks
Highly sensitive people are extremely conscientious and caring people. Often the result, however, is that HSPs back away from taking risks when they d not have to.
Taking intelligent risks and using their conscientiousness and caring to embrace intelligent risk taking can make a big difference not only in being successful but also enjoying growing a learning.
HSPs have much to offer, so when we take risks, everyone often benefits.
It is worth sticking our toes in the water. We may find that it is warm and inviting.