Do ever get asked a question that hits you like a ton of bricks?
Years ago a good friend of mine asked me something that I’ll never forget.
At the time I was pretty much all over the place. Feeling emotions very intensely, even taking on other people’s stuff. It was a huge energy suck. At the time I had no idea of my HSP trait. I just thought I was a little crazy.
So when I was asked this question it caught me off guard. Like somebody had “found me out.”
“Are you ever just content?”
Of Course I Feel Contentment!
My first thought when I heard this was to scream out and defend myself: “Yes! Of course I am!” But I knew it wasn’t true.
So I stood there, kind of stunned.
You see, I was truly all over the map with my emotions. I was in college, stressed to the core, and had zero ways to deal with it.
What was so eye opening about hearing this question was that it brought me face to face with just how stressed I was.
I was either really happy, or down in the dumps. There wasn’t much of a healthy middle ground.
Even though I was feeling exposed in that moment, I was grateful that someone had the guts to check in with me at that level.
Where Is Your Contentment?
Now I want to check in with you. Do you ever just feel contentment?
Are you able to be with what is in your life, while still dreaming up whatever is next for you?
Being stressed can make us feel stuck because we are either reaching for the past or the future. Living on an emotional rollercoaster can keep us playing the “up and down” game – happy when things are up and sad when things are down.
But where does that leave you in all of this?
Where is the constant in your life, the underlying sense of “I’m OK”?
And how do you live in that place more often?
Something I love to do to help re-set and actually look at what is going on in my life is to schedule quiet time every day – even if it’s just five 5 or 10 minutes.
Close the door, turn off the computer, silence the phone. Take these few precious minutes to do what feels good to you and recharge your battery. Cultivate the awareness of how you feel when you are about to get into a “burn out” state, and give yourself a break before you begin to get to that state.
If you find yourself easily swayed by whatever’s going on in your life, this is a must. Give it a try and let me know how it goes for you.
What else brings you back to center, to your healthy middle ground? Let me know in the comments. Can’t wait to hear.