In Search Of A Real Conversation

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I like a real conversation.

I do not like a faux conversation.

I do not like pretend conversations.

I do not like manipulative conversations.

It can be quiet around me.

What Is A Real Conversation, Anyway?

It probably sounds silly and perhaps a little whiney – but what is a real conversation?

It may be easier to talk about what it is not.

I have no trouble with people being pleasant with each other except when it becomes so rigid that real issues and problems cannot be discussed.

A real conversation talks about what is and needs to be.

When I see conversations that are stiffly pleasant, I often think people are talking to what they want life to be like rather than what is.

I don’t want conversations that feel like some sort of weird dream. I prefer a conversation that feels robust and timely. It should be present.

A real conversation is present.

A real conversation doesn’t nee to manipulate.

I have enough going on, I don’t really have the time.

A real conversation does not demand a big acting job on the part of others. There is nothing to gain or lose. There is just the getting on with it.

Real Conversation Is Slow

Real conversation is slow. It starts but does not necessarily end at the same time. I like the kind of conversations that feel like a kind of weaving of information, thoughts and feelings.

The results are not the primary concern, the exchange is.

It makes the conversation less about an agenda or result and more about groundedness.

Conversation can be a way to ground.

A real conversation does not have winners or losers.

A real conversation doesn’t have rules or authority. What is is the authority.

A Real Conversation Is Lighter

A real conversation is lighter because it doesn’t need rules, roles, poses, and agendas.

It is grounded in the present and stays there. There is no place to go. Just a place to be.

It’s also a place here anyone can be. There is no exclusion because we are all here in this present.

So a real conversation can make life easier and more enjoyable.

I also think it makes life more companionable, since there is no competition.

A real conversation is a place for friends.

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Entering The Aliveness

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Aliveness!

We all seek it and it is all around us.

As a highly sensitive person, I love just being in the natural aliveness around me.

Aliveness And Its Substitutes

I have a hard time with all the substitutes for aliveness: entertainment, overwork, war.

They jangle my nerves.

I do not like drama all that much – mostly because it does not ring true but also because it seems so escapist.

Drama is often a substitute for living. It is a great way to organize people and harness their energy for some purpose, necessary or not.

When we opt for drama we give up the precious aliveness of space.

I think it is a poor trade.

Drama As Loss

Whenever I am around drama I experience such a sense of loss.

I feel the loss of a precious home. I feel the sullying of perfect silence.

Perhaps I am simply not endowed with an effusive love of busyness because it often seems silly. Some people seem to love it.

I am not interested in false importance.

Perhaps I just miss the joy of space.

Why Do We Need To Get Ahead?

I do not understand all of the getting ahead.

Why?

When you see that we are all part of the universal energy, then what is there to get ahead of? Or perhaps who?

The minute you separate yourself from the universal energy, you essentially are operating from an adversarial mind and not embracing the whole.

Then you are definitely creating drama and missing out on simple joy.

Animals know this. That is why the animal kingdom is sometimes smarter than we are.

There is no one to get ahead of. We are all part of the universe.

I know that that idea is considered naive by some, but it is really dangerous to think otherwise because when we do we are creating the adversity that we do not like.

The human mind can be a blessing or a curse. The more we engage in comparisons the worse off we are, the more adversarial we are and the less we live in the peace of space.

So why get ahead when you can simply be in the luxurious silence of wholeness?

I Love To Just Be

I love to just be, it’s my favorite thing to do.

I have to keep reminding myself not to turn it into an aspiration, though.

Learning to just be is not easy. It has taken many years of meditation to begin to relax. Probably because I am so sensitive.

I have to remind myself that I do not have to fix everything, I do not need to be necessary or essential and then I can relax.

Sometimes I have trouble relaxing because I see so may things that need doing.

Since I am sensitive the things undone can be a source of irritation and make it hard for me to relax.

I keep at it though, because no matter how much I get done nothing makes me happier than just being in the universal silence.

Then I feel I am at home.

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